Getting the news that a partner has tested positive for an STD can feel overwhelming. You may be dealing with shock, fear, confusion — and lots of unanswered questions. It’s completely normal to feel unsure about what to do next.
The most important thing? Don’t panic. Many STDs are treatable or manageable, and getting tested yourself is a smart, proactive step. Whether you’re in a committed relationship, recently started seeing someone new, or had a casual encounter, this guide will help you move forward privately and confidently.
📋 Step 1: Confirm the Details (Privately)
If a partner tells you they tested positive, try to gather a few key facts — if they’re willing to share:
- Which STD(s) they tested positive for
- Whether they have symptoms or are asymptomatic
- If they’ve started treatment (if applicable)
You don’t need to pressure them, but understanding what you’ve been potentially exposed to will help you make informed decisions about your own testing. If you’re not comfortable discussing it in detail, you can still get tested for common infections as a precaution.
🧪 Step 2: Get Tested (Without Embarrassment)
Knowing your own status is the next logical step. The good news? You can get tested privately — without involving a doctor or insurance, and without going to a crowded clinic.
Two discreet testing options to consider:
- At-home STD kits: Perfect if you prefer to collect your sample privately and avoid face-to-face visits
- Lab-based testing: Offers more comprehensive panels, especially for conditions like HIV, syphilis, or hepatitis
You’ll receive secure digital results in a few days, and if anything comes back positive, many providers include a free telehealth consult or treatment plan.
🧭 Step 3: Know Which STDs to Screen For
If your partner tells you which infection they tested positive for, start there. But it’s also smart to screen for other common STDs — especially if the relationship was unprotected or non-exclusive.
Here are the infections most people test for after exposure:
- Chlamydia & Gonorrhea: Common bacterial STDs that often go unnoticed without symptoms
- HIV: Testing is recommended if your partner has tested positive or if you’re unsure of past status
- Syphilis: Easily missed early on but serious if untreated
- Herpes (HSV-2): Consider testing if you’ve noticed symptoms or want peace of mind
- Trichomoniasis: A parasitic infection that’s often asymptomatic in men
You can order a full panel or tailor your test based on the exposure. Our comparison tool can help you find the best fit.
🛡️ Step 4: Take Care of Yourself (and Future Partners)
Testing is the first step. If your results are positive, don’t panic — most STDs are treatable, and many don’t cause long-term harm if addressed early.
Whether your results come back positive or negative, it’s a good time to think about what you want moving forward. This might include:
- Talking to your current partner about next steps
- Speaking with a telehealth provider if treatment is needed
- Reassessing how you approach testing in future relationships
Everyone deserves access to private, judgment-free testing. What matters most is taking care of yourself and making informed choices.